LFA = Loving Fundie Authority

I’ve been reading over some of the messages from several of the mailing lists and web groups that focus on certain aspects of D/s, notably the groups dealing with chastity and orgasm control. I’ve mentioned that over the last several years this has become one of my interests, although I’m not quite sure how it [...]

When Someone You Love is Kinky - 2

This is the second part in a series, describing how I finally brought out my desires and thoughts on kink to my wife, and some of the ways in which it affected our relationship.
What follows is an reworked version of something written for another group, but which seems particularly appropriate to post here. This took [...]

When Someone You Love is Kinky - 1

I’ve been reading several blogs (notably Jamie’s) in which the writers express some concern about bringing up their long-held desires, be they for D/s, LFA, or some femdom play. Several people have remarked that it was the hardest thing that they’ve ever needed to talk about with their partners, and from personal experience, I’d [...]

Stealth Submission

In several of the groups that read, I often see messages from men who have desire to be submissive to their partners - generally a wife of some years. Like many who first discover a way to vent on the internet, their questions usually take the form of “How can I get my partner to…” [...]

Welcome to The Edge of Vanilla

For those of you reading my original blog “The Tao of Me“, I’ve moved to this journal (taking some of my favorites from the old one) for two reasons.
One is that the BloggerBeta was giving me some technical problems that made things inconvenient. I’m all about simplifying my life, and instead of hacking everything, it [...]

Equal Time

I’ve noticed a trend in the FLR and related blogs lately, from people who are irritated with that particular genre to which I’m going to refer as the “Clueless Subby Type”, or the CST. Picking on the CSTs that seem to populate the D/s forum communities may seem to be like shooting fish in a [...]

Helpful Suggestions

There is often a synchronicity in communities, and it’s with some amusement that I have seen Richard Evans Lee and now Candace touching on a subject that has also been on my own mind. Candace has an amusingly titled post, sparked to some degree by what I call the “helpful suggestions” sent in by some [...]