2010 Retro Spective

Yeah, it’s the end of the year; the time that we traditionally are supposed to look back on what we’ve attempted,  what we’ve accomplished, and what we’ve screwed up.

First off, I hardly posted much content at all this past year. There’s some irony in that at the beginning of last year, I had to lay some people off, which meant that I had to do their jobs, leaving me less time to edit during the day – but later in the year, we had a busy period, and took in a lot of orders, which left me little time to edit during the day.

But the primary reason that I didn’t edit during the day was because the hour or so in the morning that I used to reserve for writing was taken over by my new  obsession interest in serious exercising. Three, four, even sometimes five mornings a week I’d get up early, make coffee and set it on a timer, then head down to the  laundry room home gym to pull up, push up, press up, and do a bunch of other oddly named exercises involving muscle and iron.  And as most of you know, when the weather warmed up, on the off days I doffed the sweatpants, donned a spandex shirt, and took my favorite bike on the road for five to fifteen mile jaunts. This continued until October, and now I’m back down to three to four days a week of pumping iron (unless I decide to buy a trainer so I can ride stationary in my garage).

Yeah, yeah, I know – so why aren’t I writing at night? Well, truth is, after working out in the morning, then putting in a 10 hour day at the shop, then then often as not making dinner when I get home, I usually just browse some sites, leave a few comments, and go to bed early. They say that you need less sleep as you get older, but during this past year I’ve been exhausted by 10 pm. On the other hand, at my last checkup, the doc was amazed at how well I was doing; my blood pressure was back in the normal range, I’ve put on some serious muscle, and I’m healthier than most of my friends, including the ones who are ten or twenty years younger.

TL;DR:  Sorry I haven’t written, I’ve been busy.

 

Anyway, since most of you are here to read about male chastity, I don’t want to leave you hanging; for those of you who are Jonesing for more cock-locking literature, here’s a short list of where to go.

Thumper has done an excellent job of picking up my slack, and has been writing a lot of deep and insightful posts lately.

Dev has emerged to become one of the most interesting writers on male chastity; she has an interesting perspective in that, unlike the majority of situations, it was she who introduced the idea to her husband.

Sarah, who was writing pretty much daily, has had to cut back because of some pressing work duties, but we’ll excuse her because her book has become an excellent resource for couples discovering this.

Keyheld, which I introduced recently, has the latest updates from about two dozen vanilla-oriented, chastity-themed blogs; I suggest that you bookmark it and visit often. Keyehld  grew out of the community of…

The Chastity Forums, a web board that was created by Thumper out of frustration at the lack of web boards that were not oriented toward newbs, not to mention over-run with spam. It’s grown to over 250 members in the last few months, and you will find most of your favorite  bloggers writing at least several times a week.

 

While I didn’t post much original content this year, I did have a few items of interest. According to the stats, some of the most popular posts this year were:

Chastity Therapy: A rant about the people – mainly guys – who, upon the news that any celebrity or politician has been caught cheating, immediately prescribe enforced chastity as a means to prevent such behavior in the future.

Ahead of Time: This has become my most popular story, and while it was fiction when I wrote it… well, that’s another story.

Full Scale Models: The past year saw a number of news stories on “full figured” models in fashion. Except, of course, in the fashion industry, “full figured” means “women who are normal sized.” See also Not Satisfied, Mammary Lane, and Again, with the curves.

 

And since we’re on the subject of eye candy, I posted a number of HNTs this year, some of which were actually popular, judging by the number of views and comments.

Breakthrough: Despite the love handles, this is the thinnest I’ve been in a long time.

Mirrored: More attention whoring.

Working it out:  I used to be embarrassed by my premature gray hair. Now I’m discovering that some of you are actually turned on by it.

 

And that’s all for 2010. Here’s hoping for a happy and prosperous 2011.

Male Chastity: Why it’s really not a big deal

When I see the comments about male chastity devices in other venues (Yahoo Answers, Boing Boing, etc.) invariably a few guys seem totally freaked at the idea that anyone – i.e., any other guy – would even stand for having just one orgasm denied, let alone being denied for weeks or months at a time.

But let’s put this in perspective: I’ve often written that having sex without orgasm is not much different than having sex with orgasm (i.e., mine).I still get aroused. I still get to sensually explore my wife’s body, and she still sensually explores mine. I often even get very close to coming, even if I’m still in the device. In fact, all I’m really missing is that few seconds of “fireworks” at the end.

It seems that I’m not the only one trying to put this into perspective. From The Times of India comes an interesting article:

Men get 3hrs of orgasm in their lifetime

Singapore Gleneagles Hospital gynaecologist Dr Fang Zhuang Wei said that due to busy lifestyles these days, couples were only sexually active before and immediately after their marriage, reports the Star Online.

For instance, he said if a man had an average orgasm of about 2.5 seconds over 40 years (from age 18 to 58), and had sex twice weekly with his wife, he would enjoy two hours, 53 minutes and 20 seconds of orgasm in his lifetime.

Think about that. Three hours in orgasm over a course of 40 years. You spend more than three hours in traffic just commuting to work in a single year. Hell, you spend more than that waiting for the popcorn in the microwave.

Now, I’m not sure about the math in this article, so let’s work this out another way.

Assuming that the orgasm itself lasts 2.5 seconds, that’s 24 orgasms per minute.

If you assume sex twice a week on the average, then you’re looking at just over 4 minutes of orgasm in a year.

I had more to write, but I found myself fantasizing about having 24 orgasms in a minute, and my joints suddenly started feeling all rubbery.

Where was I? Oh, right. I found it interesting that this study assumed that the only orgasms would come from sex, especially since my informal methods (asking around teh internetz) turned up that men tend to masturbate 4 to 7 times a week. Since this essentially triples one’s time (and assuming that you continue to fap until you’re about to keel over), that means that you’d have spent a total of five to six hours in orgasmic bliss over the course of your lifetime.

Six hours of fireworks. It barely seems like any time at all, doesn’t it?

So, instead of asking why any man would limit his orgasms, I think one could as well ask: How much difference do you think it actually makes, anyway?

 

Now hiring: Must be flexible

For any of you guys who don’t have a clue as to what to buy your woman for Christmas, how about a gift certificate?

From the New Zealand Herald:

Pammy’s offers $240 an hour

By Carolyne Meng-Yee

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Pammy’s owner Pam Corkery. Photo / Herald on Sunday

At $240 an hour, the job offers one of the best pay rates in Auckland – and any bloke could do it lying on his back.

Former MP Pam Corkery and her business partner Rebekah Hay began advertising this weekend for male prostitutes to work in Pammy’s, her “world-first” private women’s club opening early in the new year.

As someone living in a conservative US state, I’m more amazed that it’s a former MP that’s doing this. Normally, any of our politicians involved with anything sexual are hounded out of office and have to take jobs as lobbyists.

Corkery said that since she announced her plans, 700 men had expressed interest on Facebook.

Only 700?

Once the hopefuls have been shortlisted, a “panel of celebrity women” would choose the successful applicants – although Corkery did not say how they would be chosen.

I imagine it will be a combination of ice skating style, flower arranging skill, and the ability to replace the toilet seat.

“Women are incredibly discerning,” she said. “They want beautiful decor, they want their men trained in everything … This is a place for women who have never been treated the way they should be.”

Are the guys really that bad in NZ?

But perhaps they’d allow an intern?

Corkery has engaged sex therapist Wellington Michelle Mars to train the “boys”.”Most men don’t upskill. They tend to stick to the same old techniques …there are exercises for boys with performance issues,” Corkery said.

I mean, I’d intern for a while in order to upskill. I might even off to do so for just room and board.

“And we have convinced our chief financial backers that women do have sex drives.”

Right now, I suspect that some men are thinking “Maybe they can convince my wife next.”

Keyheld – Chastity Resources for Lovers

Chances are if you’re reading this, then it’s because you were looking for information on male chastity, or enforced chastity, or orgasm denial, or something similar. Or maybe it’s because you’re a long-time reader, and you’ve just gotten into the habit of checking in to see if there’s anything new. And unfortunately, when you do stop by, instead of witty content, all you see are my half-naked pictures.

Well, maybe “unfortunate” isn’t correct, since apparently some of you seem to enjoy them.

Anyway, while I’ve been too busy to write much here, I have been hanging around at a web group for chastity fanatics enthusiasts. You probably already know that Thumper, having nothing else to do with all of his pent-up energy, started The Chastity Forums as a place where those exploring chastity in a more vanilla context could freely associate, exchange ideas, and offer advice to other novitiates.

During one of the many conversations there, Nipple Ring Dev thought it might be nice to have a way to see at a glance what the various other bloggers were doing. Not having anything particularly important to do that evening, I set up a blog to capture the most recent RSS feeds from what is now about 2 dozen different blogs. We also added some resources for people who might be looking for answers to frequently asked questions, where to buy devices, and blog posts of particular interest to women, newbies, etc. And just like that, Keyheld was created.

You can thank Dev for this nice little graphic.

If you’re reading this, and still looking for interesting information on chastity or orgasm denial, then bookmark Keyheld; it’s another good source of information and an opportunity to connect with other people in the community.