Thanksgiving

I’m writing this because at the moment, I feel thankful.
As I write this entry I’m about to pass the 200,000th 201,000th hit on this, the WordPress version of The Edge of Vanilla. It has been 14 months since I’ve moved over here, and now this blog now generates between 750 and 1,000 hits [...]

Well? How Did I Get Here?

I’ve hit a blogging milestone of sorts.
Over the last week I’ve watched as first my original Blogger version of “The Edge of Vanilla” rolled past the 25,000 hits mark. I started that blog back in August, when I decided that I wanted to branch out from my Live Journal. Although I no longer use Blogger [...]

Chastity - Some Backstory, Part 2

The cards and letters continue to pour in.
“Tom, you’re crazy, dude! I couldn’t last a couple of days without coming, let alone a month. How do you do it?”
Actually, I’ve been asked this a lot, and it’s a good question. Here’s some background:
I discovered yoga back in my late teens, and from there went [...]

Disclosure on Enclosure

“We are who we pretend to be, so we must be careful who we pretend to be.” — Kurt Vonnegut “Mother Night”.
I’ve had some interesting comments on my article about “Enclosure” that deserve some discussion - mainly because I’m surprised that some people are in the same situation that I am.
Sagitaria writes:
I’m not especially kinky [...]

Self Enclosure

One of the reasons that I started a blog was to give me a certain sense of enclosure. Not “closure” - the sense of ending things in a way to have some peaceful resolution, but “enclosure” - the act of bringing the various far-flung aspects of one’s personality together for more integral functioning. In short, [...]

infection nipple pie

infection nipple pie ?
That was the first thing that popped up in the “Search” box in the Yourdomain.com page that has now captured the link for anyone trying to find “Sue Wears the Pants” or “suewearsthepants.blogspot.com”.
Further investigation shows that the Search Text box was too short to display the “rcing”, making the ending to Sue’s [...]

Incompatible Defense*

Inspired by one of my last ramblings about coming out to my wife about my BDSM kink, slave2Catwoman left a comment in which he wrote:
I applaud your courage to finally talk to your wife. You did it the right way, too. You showed her the aspects that would benefit her, not just the leather and [...]

When Someone You Love is Kinky - 3

I’ve been writing on the period in our marriage when I finally explained to my wife that I could no longer keep some of my desires for kink and other sexual intimacy buried. At the time I was writing extensively in various web groups, and I was surprised at the amount of email that I [...]

When Someone You Love is Kinky - 2

This is the second part in a series, describing how I finally brought out my desires and thoughts on kink to my wife, and some of the ways in which it affected our relationship.
What follows is an reworked version of something written for another group, but which seems particularly appropriate to post here. This took [...]

When Someone You Love is Kinky - 1

I’ve been reading several blogs (notably Jamie’s) in which the writers express some concern about bringing up their long-held desires, be they for D/s, LFA, or some femdom play. Several people have remarked that it was the hardest thing that they’ve ever needed to talk about with their partners, and from personal experience, I’d [...]