Weirded out

Okay, so here’s the deal: I have a new friend, a cute 27 year old woman who has been emailing me and being generally pleasant and chatty. She’s a professional in the local entertainment media, and we chat - via email - about just how things are in life. She has wondered about how to [...]

The Puerile Cuckoo

Okay, fasten your seat belts, because I feel a rant coming on.
The Edge of Vanilla gets a lot of hits from people searching on male chastity and orgasm denial. Those kinks overlap with others, among which are: BDSM, transvestism, tease & denial, female domination, D/s, and cuckolding.
Personally, I don’t understand the attraction of wanting to [...]

Dating Scene

“Of course I want dessert. What, are you in a hurry or something?”
We were at one of those upscale Italian restaurants. You know the kind: they are usually named after an island in the Mediterranean, the waiters are named after one of the Teenage Mutant Ninja Terrapins, and where you can’t get spaghetti; instead you [...]

Rika does Vanilla!

Okay, here’s something that I rarely do - have a guest blogger here on The Edge of Vanilla.
Of course, I’ve never asked anyone before, either.
Anyway, long-time web surfers looking for femdom-related readings have no doubt stumbled across the Uniquely Rika web site, hosted by Ms. Rika, a non-pro dominatrix who runs an informational web forum [...]

Men are from Mars Earth, Women are from Venus Earth.

I’m referring back to the post from a couple of weeks ago in which Dee from Sexywhispers threatened offered to interview me. Because she asked such very good questions, the kind to which I wanted to devote more than a couple of tossed-off sentences, I’ve decided to take them on individually. Here’s the second one.

2–Where [...]

Ceci n’est pas une meme

Nope, this is not a meme. This is what you call an interview. Of sorts.
Diana of Whispers Media and the blog Sexywhispers tossed out a few questions for me that are a lot like the “7 random questions” kind of blog memes that periodically make the rounds, except that taken in a different context, [...]

“… but when I’m bad, I’m terrific.”

The quote from Mae West supposedly went “When I’m good, I’m very good; but when I’m bad, I’m terrific.” I’ve always liked the humor of it, but it points up something interesting. As a response to my post on the “fines” for being bad, Suzy (who managed a respectable $610.10) had this to [...]

Supporting One’s Self-Perception

I subscribe to Psychology Today - you know, the magazine that does for Psychology and Sociology what Ladies Home Journal does for Feminism. While a lot of the articles are pap and only scratch the surface, sometimes I get a glimmer of an insight. This month, there is an article on “friendship“, which carries the [...]

Incompatible Defense*

Inspired by one of my last ramblings about coming out to my wife about my BDSM kink, slave2Catwoman left a comment in which he wrote:
I applaud your courage to finally talk to your wife. You did it the right way, too. You showed her the aspects that would benefit her, not just the leather and [...]

When Someone You Love is Kinky - 2

This is the second part in a series, describing how I finally brought out my desires and thoughts on kink to my wife, and some of the ways in which it affected our relationship.
What follows is an reworked version of something written for another group, but which seems particularly appropriate to post here. This took [...]