Yet another blogging meme is making the rounds…
Five Questions (Interview Meme)
The Rules: Leave me a comment saying, “Interview me.”
I will respond by asking you five personal questions, which I will leave for you in my Comments section.
If I don’t know you that well, the questions will probably be easy and fun.
If I think I know you pretty well, then expect the questions to be a little more personal.
To answer them, you must repost the questions along with your answers in your journal/bloggy thing.
Then, make sure to include this explanation of how it works, and offer to interview anyone else who asks.
This is my conversation with Cat leading up to this meme:
Me: I’m trying to decide if I’m brave enough to ask to be interviewed. I don’t think that you’d ask me the softball questions.
Cat: Tom I will take it easy on you, promise 😉
Know what? Interview me, but don’t ask me the easy ones. I think I need to be pushed a little.
Geez, how’s that for topping from the bottom, huh?
Damn. I knew I was asking for trouble.
1. Do you think you would have been able to return to your marriage if your wife had not been willing to try dominance?
First, understand that it was not specifically a BDSM issue. What we really had – although even I wasn’t clear on this at the time – was an intimacy issue. Emotional, physical, and sexual intimacy are all connected; we didn’t begin to figure it out until I pointed out that virtually every conversation we had was about the house, the kids, or her family. Any subject that I brought up with emotional overtones was quickly sidetracked. It took a while for me to figure out that this was happening; for years I (mis)interpreted this as that she really didn’t care what I felt.
However, since part of the issue was my desire for some sexual exploration (and to be fair, we had done a bit back when we were dating), I think that while I would have returned, it would have been difficult to stay without her being willing to try something.
2. Following up question number one if your wife had tried and decided it just wasn’t for her do you think you would have stayed together?
I think that we would have found some kind of a compromise. In fact, the chastity play is a form of that.
3. If the situation had been reversed and your wife had been the one with sexual interests outside of your comfort zone do you think you would have been willing to branch out to please her?
I’m thinking that if she had interests outside of my comfort zone, she’d probably have been arrested by now.
In the past, I’ve been known to be pretty open-minded. Again, I think that I would be willing to compromise in some way.
4. If you were able to go back and change one decision in your life what would it be and why?
Oooh. You had to ask this one, huh?
I’d go back to my early 20s. There was a particular decision that I made that I’ve always wondered about. Worse, I’ve had several opportunities to rectify that decision, and each time turned away from… something that I’m not sure about even now.
This is a difficult question for me, and I will have to answer it in its own blog post.
5. Boxers or Briefs…hehehe
What? Who wears underwear anymore?
Boxers with pants or suit trousers, a tuxedo, or other loose fitting pants.
Briefs with shorts or jeans… when I bother to wear anything. I like to go “commando,” especially in the summer.
Okay, if anybody else wants in on this, just leave an “Interview me” comment. And let me know if you want the easy or the tough questions.