Well? How Did I Get Here?

I’ve hit a blogging milestone of sorts.

Over the last week I’ve watched as first my original Blogger version of “The Edge of Vanilla” rolled past the 25,000 hits mark. I started that blog back in August, when I decided that I wanted to branch out from my Live Journal. Although I no longer use Blogger as a journal, I still post stories and some of my more creative pieces on it because my StatCounter tells me that people still link there from other blogs. I guess I don’t want to hang a big sign saying “Yeah, I know you clicked here from somewhere else; now come over to my real blog.” Although, this may not be such a bad idea.

But that’s not the milestone I’m really here to write about.

Back at the end of October, I recreated that blog here on WordPress, mainly because I’m a sucker for features. In the animal kingdom, I’d be one of those creatures that gets lured in by shiny, glittery things. While the free version limits my ability to customize the pages or add Java-scripted toys (more shiny things), I like the way WP handles most of the other features. For instance, in addition to having blog posts, I can have a separate bank of “pages” which I can format for other articles. In addition to the ubiquitous “About” page, I’ve added a page with links to my stories, a page with TMI, and a page for reading and other resources.

There is an old Zen parable in which a monk tells his students “The world is vast; why do you put on your robes and pray at the sound of a bell?” Likewise, for some reason we think of “milestones” in terms of numbers ending in nice round zeros (oh, and the law of fives, of course). Except for “sweet sixteen,” most of us will be treated to birthday extravaganzas on our 30th or 50th or 75th. But what about all of those poor, neglected numbers in between? I mean, 37 is a prime number, why don’t we have Hallmark cards for that?

The reason, of course, is that people aren’t digital. We’re analog creatures, and we like to space things out because it’s easier to process the information. We count by fives and tens because we’re used to our fingers. I’m sure that if we had only four fingers on each hand, we’d count by 4s and 10s (Yes, we would. Think about it).

Anyway, I’m completely rambling because I’m writing this at work and keep getting interrupted to, well, do those things that allow me to pay the mortgage.

Over the weekend I’ve been watching my WordPress blog hit counter climb past the 50,000 52,201 mark, a number I considered something close to the order of infinite when I moved over here a bit more than six months ago. So, needless to say this is quite an ego boost for me, and I’d certainly be remiss if I didn’t pat myself on the back during the traditional “You like me; you really like me!” post that generally accompanies these kinds of milestones.

Personally, I have often wondered who reads my blog – not specifically, mind you (especially if some of you are my family members), but in a general kind of “You really find this interesting?” sort of way. This came up recently when my wife had the day off and decided to read some of my stuff after I begged her gave her the links and left the browser open for her.

My wife? Ah yes, I hear the sharp intake of breath from those who think that no good would possibly come of allowing their partner in on their sexual thoughts. I can tell you from experience, however, that for the ten years that we were not communicating, there wasn’t a whole lot of “good coming” to speak of, and we’ve since learned that – for us, anyway – it’s much less stress to get things out in the open. Neither of us is wonderful at it, although in a bit of role-reversal I found myself having to be the initiator in conversations about intimacy and emotions. That is one of the reasons that I thought she might benefit from reading this; while I do tell her about some of my favorite articles, I thought she might benefit from reading them as written.

She had a few comments. One was she loves it when I refer to her as “Mrs. Edge.” I think it’s because it makes her feel like a character in a story. Or maybe because it’s got a cool connotation to it. Another was “Why do you have so many hits? Who the hell reads your stuff?” I’m sure that she meant that in a good way. And surprisingly (sort of) she really liked my recent post on men who see their kink lives as “conversion projects” and try to disguise their own fetish interests by claiming that it’s supposed to be for their partners.

Damn. I just bought her a leather halter top from Stormy Leather. Please, please, please don’t let her discover Bitchy Jone’s blog.

But interestingly – and to the delight of my own ego – she did ask when I was going to write more hot chastity porn. Some people just never seem to get tired of it. And interestingly enough, this may be the answer to my question.

That said, thank you everybody, for reading. And thank you even more for commenting. Let’s all do this again in six months when I can celebrate 100,000 101,423 hits.

About Tom Allen

The Grey Geezer Dauntless defender of, um, something that needed dauntless defending. Dammit, I can't read this script without my glasses. Hey, you kids, get off my damn lawn!
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11 Responses to Well? How Did I Get Here?

  1. Cat says:

    Wow I guess I am not the only one who thinks you are a cutie in a Mr. Professor sort of way…Congrats on the milestone! Btw of course we want you to write more chastity porn. Why else would we keep coming back? 😉


  2. maymay says:

    There’s definitely admiration, at a minimum, coming to you from me. You’re awesomeness personified. Congratulations, Tom!!


  3. Tom Allen says:

    Oooh! Cat thinks I’m a cutie?

    MM – oddly enough, you used to impress the hell out of me when we first ran across each other in the X-forums. You seemed very confident about being “out” WRT your kinkiness, in a way that I still can’t manage. Props to you for that.


  4. kimba says:

    i read too..
    just because you look like frank sinatra..


  5. la fille says:

    Oh, I love what Cat said… cute in a Mr. Professor sort of way. That’s fabulous… and of course, the best possible way to be cute!

    I suspect it won’t take anywhere close to another 6 months for you to climb beyond 101, 423.



  6. elizabeth says:

    Yay for you, and Mrs. Edge. (I’ve never liked being called Mrs. anything, but if I could be called Mrs. Edge, I’d jump on it. That’s just the coolest name. )

    What can I say, you’re a real person and that really comes through in what you blog and how you treat people.

    I don’t know if I’ve ever made it clear that finding you was the reason I got the notion to blog. Nice normal guy talking about not-so-normal things, hey, I could do that, too.

    Anyway, congratulations and thanks and hugs and everything else, too!



  7. Destiny says:

    Mrs. Edge is a very cool name.

    Congrats to you tom. I enjoy your blog very much, it is witty and often makes me laugh. You share your journey with us so openly and with open honesty, it is what keeps me coming back.



  8. Tom Allen says:

    Mariee – Another one who thinks I’ve got that “Professor” look. Is it the beard? The grey hair? Should I take up pipe smoking and carry around large tomes?
    Well, at least you qualified it with the “cute”.

    D – As you know, I’ve been a long-time reader of your own blog. I appreciate your comments. I try to keep things “real” here because it helps me process the information. Glad you can enjoy the show.

    E – I read your comment to Mrs. Edge, and she nodded and smiled. Generally, she does a lot of eye-rolling at my sense of humor, so this was a nice change.

    Thank you for your comment about me being a normal guy blogging about not-so-normal things. There’s some irony in that most of my friends think that I’m not “normal” i.e., compared to my conservative family & friends, I’m known as being a bit “out there.” I’ve learned to just keep quiet around most of them now.

    I’ve always been a “journaler” and this has helped me get a better handle on what’s going on in my head. Thanks again.


  9. Susan says:

    Congrats Tom:)


  10. What, I’m the only guy who enjoys reading of your sexual torment?



  11. Tom Allen says:

    Hi Susan – thank you for taking some time out of retirement to visit me.

    ML – You’ve got a good point: Most of the comments on my orgasm denial stories have been from women. I wonder why.


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