Some people fire up their web browser and run down the lost of bookmarks, perhaps check out a couple of the links that they’re run across, and then they’re done for the night.
Here at Edge of Vanilla Labs, though, we’re constantly on the prowl for interesting or informative links because we believe that it’s important for us to be a resource for our community – whatever community you happen to believe yourself (or me) part of.
Back over the summer, I ran across an interesting site (set up in a blog format) run by five women who took turns addressing questions from the readers, or who would sometimes use those questions as the basis for an article of opinion or interest. I lurked for a bit, and then wandered off to look at other pretty, shiny things and sort of forgot about it until another blogger pointed out that they had a post concerning chastity devices. The chastity community is small and easily distracted, so naturally I headed over there for a peek. I found that the discussion about the devices was good; it was fair-minded, and they treated the devices (or at least, the concept of the devices) as an interesting toy to be used to spice up one’s relationship. This, some of you realize, is rather close to how we view it around the EoV Labs.
What makes this noteworthy, however, is that this perspective comes from a group of women that, in other circumstances, you’d expect to be somewhat critical of using anything to spice up one’s sex life. Not so, however, for the Christian Nymphos. Their site, now a little over a year old, has had about 2-1/2 million hits, certainly a testament to their progressive thinking and their well-written articles on how to develop and maintain a close and fun intimate relationship while remaining within the bound circumscribed by a Christian marriage.
Yes, you read that correctly. Conservative Christians are allowed to have an enjoyable sex life.
Now, at this point it would be easy to hoot and point and make some rude comments about Christians in general – and certainly, not all of this would be undeserved. And I know that some of you are probably wondering why I’m even mentioning this in the first place, since a) I’m not Christian, and b) I’m not exactly conservative. I’m writing about them because I think that any group of people who make a point of reviewing their cultural mores with an eye toward a more fulfilling intimate life deserve some strokes. Also, I know that a certain number of people who read this blog are themselves conservative and mostly vanilla, and would probably gain something by visiting their site.
It’s written more from a woman’s point of view, and is really aimed at women – Christian women – in such a way that allows them to confront and deal with some of the issues they may have over enjoying their bodies, their husband’s bodies, having sexual pleasure, and the various other issues that keep women from enjoying a good relationship with their husbands. Resonating with their mission to help other women to add spice to their sex lives, the five women have adopted pseudonyms based on various spices: Nutmeg, Cinnamon, Peppermint, Ginger, and Cumin.
No, no, that’s pronounced kyoo’-min, you fools. It’s like a spicier kind of carroway.
While I think that they do an excellent job of interpreting Biblical script in the context of developing intimacy, I suspect that many of my regular readers will no doubt take issue with some of their views. For example, while they are fine with the use of various toys in the bedroom, they consider porn to be off-limits, in part because it introduces (in a fashion) other people into the relationship. Likewise, threesomes, swapping, swinging, and related activities are regarded as cheating of a sort. Marriage is between two people and should remain so. They consider sex outside of marriage as still inappropriate. BDSM, especially the more painful or humiliating aspects, are also off-limits. I found this last bit interesting because there are several large web groups advocating Christian BDSM, which explain why it’s really okay.
That said, I found it fascinating that the Christian Nymphos were able to make a case for the use of various sex toys, and for trying various positions normally only seen in an illustrated Kama Sutras. They even have a page on which they list various positions, and grade them on relative difficulty. And it might surprise some of you to learn that certain activities which might be considered slightly kinky are perfectly acceptable. Light, teasing bondage is okay, as is oral sex and even anal sex. At least one CN made a case that “pegging” – i.e., a woman taking her man with a strap-on – is perfectly fine. They even describe how a woman can make a tempting cheesecake picture to send to her husband.
The Christian Nymphos are not going to appeal to everybody, and they’re fine with that. The blog is heavily moderated, and comments are checked before begin posted. A trackback to my own blog was manually deleted, and they explained that it was because they prefer not to link to any other blog that has nudity or graphic sexual descriptions. I understood, and was not insulted; it’s their blog and they can run it any way that they like (I explained that I hadn’t expected a link to this blog). They do, however, have links to various other marital and intimacy resources for Christians, some of which I’ve seen in the past.
While I’m not recommending that everybody who reads my blog should check them out, I will say that those of you who feel so disposed will likely gain something if you do.