What is it about the internet that makes people lose their sense of — and I’m going to use an old-fashioned word here — propriety?
When I was a younger lad, I had a friend who used to send pictures of his genitals to women. Of course, back in those days
we had to crush berries and use the juice to sketch on a pterodactyl wing, use a Polaroid Instamatic camera. But he sent them out unsolicited, hoping that some woman would be curious enough to call him back for a meet-up. I asked him if it ever worked, and naturally, it hadn’t. A dozen or so years ago, I was discussing this with some friends on a web group, and I was amazed that every single woman on this group had received dozens of cock shots from various men, most of them lurkers on this group. Did these cock shots make any of them curious enough to want to meet those guys? Of course not.
“boys – pics of your device while you’re wearing it are still cock shots. Have some class: use/send a pic of just your device.”
Look, I understand that you’re all excited about your new device, and with boyish enthusiasm you lock it on and take a picture (because how else would we know if it’s real if we can’t see it captured on silicon?). Great! But for the love of Eris, why the hell do you then have to make that picture your avatar or profile picture for everything else on the freaking internet?
We had a discussion on The Chastity Forums last year, and we decided that since part of our mission was to inform and educate newbies, and to be a safe place where vanilla-ish partners could come to ask questions (safe being defined as some place where they would be treated as adults, not be hit on, addressed as “Goddess/Mistress”, etc.) that we would ask guys not to make their plastic or steel encased dicks the first thing that a new member sees when she opens up the site and starts browsing. Unfortunately, we seem to be the only place that does this, because a perusal of most of the other chastity web groups, a number of blogs, and more recently, a lot of Twitter accounts now feature amour-clad wabbly bits announcing the presence of their owners.
And yes, I know. It’s the internet. If you’re not grown up enough to handle the internet, you should stay off, blah, blah, blah. But you know, while I can accept the reasoning that “the internet” is some big place where one should expect to see all manner of weirdness (kind of like the NYC subways), what I can not accept is the idea that men engaging in crass behavior should be considered socially acceptable. In other words, just because there are no rules does not mean that there should not be some conventions. You know, what we used to call “manners.”
Your avatar, or your profile picture, is one of the first things that someone notices about you when you are on a web group or social media. If you’re trying to make a good impression, and yes, even on a sex-related group, use something that says a little more about yourself than “I think with my dick.” Trust me, it will go over much better.
And speaking of chastity devices, here’s a shot from the old, old Tickleberry spread.