Back in 2010, we started Keyheld, a blog & link aggregate for people interested in chastity and orgasm denial. We wanted a resource that would feature blogs by people who were in the middle of the bell curve; that is, with so many websites catering to BDSM and more extreme uses of chastity devices, we tried to feature people who were leading generally vanilla-ish lives, and who were using OD as a way to enhance their relationships.
The chastity/OD community has a lot of cross-over with other communities, and many of those bloggers were part of the FLR (Female Led Relationship) community. The FLR community has a pretty wide variety of practices, and they tend to have such labels as FLR, WLM (WIfe Led Marriage), LFA (Loving Female Authority), Femdom Marriage, Matriarchal Marriage, and a few others that I’m probably overlooking.
Over the years, we’ve had a number of requests to add bloggers for whom chastity was not a major part of their relationship, but who often seemed to be part of the FLR community. Recently, I’ve been looking more closely at the FLRs, and I’ve found that while the community (and subcommunities) are pretty wide-ranging, as with the chastity/OD community, there is a dearth of material for the newly experimenting couple. Yes, it’s easy — very easy — to find the more extreme examples, but I thought it would be nice if there was a resource similar to Keyheld for those who wanted to see what the vanilla-ish FLRs were like.
I really wanted to avoid a name like “Women in Charge” or “Dominant Wives” because those are exactly the kinds of names on which web searches lead you to the more extreme websites. Ergo, the name of the website that we just set up:
Right now, there are about 2 dozen blogs by both women and men bloggers, ranging from people new-at-this to those that have been practicing for years. We have also put up some links to various web forums and discussion boards, informational websites, and other reading.
Those of you who regularly visit Keyheld will see a few familiar blogs, but there will be plenty of new ones for you to check out. If you’re reading this, and have been looking for interesting information on FLR, LFA, WLM, etc., then bookmark She-Held; it’s another good source of information and an opportunity to connect with other people in the community.
And for those of you who were hoping for a more graphic representation of an FLR:
Okay, maybe this is more femdommy, but I liked it.