I ran across a short but interesting article that touches on what so many people get out of orgasm denial play. In the Psychology Today blog, therapist Steven Snyder writes:
One might say there’s a high road and a low road to orgasm.
The intensity of orgasm is more or less dependent on the intensity of arousal that precedes it. Great arousal leads to great orgasms. High arousal — the high road — doesn’t have orgasm as a goal at all. Approached from the high road, orgasm is just an afterthought, like dessert at the end of a memorable meal.
I’ve said as much many times in the past, but it’s interesting to read this from the perspective of a more vanilla-ish context. This is much like the zen approach that you’re more likely to find something if you’re not actually seeking it.
It’s a short article, so feel free to hop over to give it a read.
And on a completely unrelated note: