So, I was mowing the lawn (back when there was lawn instead of three feet of snow on the ground) when the idea started coming to me.
Mrs. Edge was off visiting family for a couple of weeks, and I was home doing the usual outdoor chores. It takes me at least an hour to mow, which means that I get time to think of all sorts of weird stuff, and like a lot of guys, when I’m horny it’s all weird stuff. And at that point, it had been about a year since my last orgasm, so you can imagine.
When I finally got to see Mrs. Edge, I asked her if she’d be agreeable to trying something I’d been thinking of. And then I did something that I’ve spent years cautioning other guys not to do: I gave her a script.
Yeah, I know. I’m actually embarrassed about this. I’m sorry. All I can do is repeat that it often happens that we get ideas in our heads, and we spend time developing them, trying them out in our minds, testing the waters, and by the time we finally bring up the idea to our partners, we have a full-blown fetish that we’re looking to satisfy, while our partners are just coming to grips with the idea that there’s something new on the table.
In my case, it wasn’t anything totally far out. But it was different enough from our regular play that Mrs. Edge didn’t quite know what to make of it; as a result, it pretty much went nowhere, leaving the both of us a bit unsatisfied for a while, for different reasons. Fortunately, we were both able to figure out how to manage our differences by talking out what we expected, and what each of us thought we would like or not like.
Again, I’m going to stress to the guys who stumble across this blog that it’s important to learn how to talk to your partner right from the beginning. Don’t expect that your kink — be it chastity or anything else — will immediately click for your partner after you explain in detail how it would work. Mention it before you build up the idea in your head. You may find that your partner will help you build something even better when she gets in on it right from the start.
Yes, yes, of course I’ll tell you more about it. Until then, here’s something to keep you calm and cool.