Not that this is a problem for me (I neither get nor send, and please don’t take that as an invitation to send me yours), but I’ve often noticed this situation ever since I had my first modem and joined chat groups. Not the majority, but a lot of men seem to have no second thoughts about sending unsolicited pictures of their junk to women.
I was raised to think that such advances would be considered “rude,” but apparently that’s not enough to hold many guys back.
From an article in Psychology Today:
“Men are GROSS” is the most common explanation that women have for this. Others might add “They’re GROSS and STUPID. Do they really think I’m going to magically want to have sex with them now, after seeing their penis?”
You’d think that the discussion would end here, but the author continues:
Both males and females are commonly sending nudes of themselves to people they meet online, but women tend to wait until asked. That distinction may simply be an expression of gender differences in mating and dating strategies. The fact is, women are told that being sexually bold in such a manner is shameful and makes them a slut.
Yeah, yeah. Let’s get to the “why”.
Men love the idea of receiving such pictures from strangers, and they assume women do too.
It’s probable that some of this connects to the fact that in an anonymous environment, people, and especially men, are likely to engage in more sexualized behaviors.
Male mating strategies have always included an element of “boldness,” where men who are bold and brash sometimes garner female attention they wouldn’t otherwise receive if they were nice and polite.
Here’s the one bit that cracked me up:
Men fear sexual rejection, and by sending pics of their genitalia, they are almost getting “pre-approval.” This way, they get the chance of rejection out of the way early, so they don’t have to worry about being rejected or shamed once they drop their pants on a real date.
I’d venture that you could take this a step further: some men figure that if they get rejected right away, they can move on to more sporting prospects.
Anyway, the topic is amusing, so go read the rest of it. Just don’t expect me to send you nudes, even if you ask.
As for me, I can only imagine the reaction of Mrs Edge if I were to send out some unsolicited (or even solicited) pictures of my equipment.