Category Archives: D/s & BDSM

More Male Chastity in the Mainstream

Posted on September 28, 2015 by Tom Allen

A little article in The Sun appeared in my Google alerts today, and after a few retweents I discovered that it’s actually a bit from a Closer article earlier in September. 50 Shades girlfriend reveals: “I lock up my lover’s … Continue reading →

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Following a new path

Posted on April 1, 2015 by Tom Allen

It’s hard to believe that The Edge of Vanilla as a blog is going on nine years, after my having spent several years on various online groups (most of which no longer even exist), and that Mrs. Edge and I … Continue reading →

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What Is Sexually “Normal?” Rethinking Pain and Pleasure

Posted on May 9, 2014 by Tom Allen

Although I’ve long since given up on anything serious from Psychology Today, it having become the Cosmo of the social sciences, once in a while I run across a good article. This one is obviously of interest to some of … Continue reading →

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The meaning of mean

Posted on January 11, 2013 by Tom Allen

I’ve been writing on sexuality and relationships for, umm, a long time, so it’s funny for me to run into a concept that I haven’t thought about. That  is why is was great to have some feedback on my last … Continue reading →

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The Herbivore Men

Posted on February 10, 2012 by Tom Allen

I spotted this article about a sexuality study in Japan last week, but haven’t had a chance to read it until just now. A startling number of Japanese youths have turned their backs on sex and relationships, a new survey … Continue reading →

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Help a sister out

Posted on February 1, 2012 by Tom Allen

My new BFF Dishevelled Domina and I have been kicking around the idea that the terms “dominance” and “submission” in a sexual context might have too much cultural baggage to be useful, especially to new people looking for just a … Continue reading →

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Not as transgressive as you think

Posted on January 12, 2012 by Tom Allen

There’s a fascinating article in today’s Salon Magazine about the new book by anthropologist Margot Weiss: “Techniques of Pleasure.” It’s an insightful look at the BDSM scene in San Francisco, and how in her perception, the scene has lost (or … Continue reading →

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Sexy South Florida

Posted on December 14, 2011 by Tom Allen

Oh, you crazy folks in South Florida! From the Broward County / Palm Beach New Times: Sex in South Florida: Our Survey Finds That We Sure Like Our Kinks The survey is clear about one thing: People around [Palm Beach]  … Continue reading →

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