Hard Limits

In case you haven’t seen this yet, Paltego, over at Femdom Resource, just re-tweeted an operation by German firefighters or EMTs who are removing a poorly chosen metal piece (possibly a large lug nut) as a cock ring, after the poor guy discovered that he couldn’t remove it.

While I’m pretty confident in my ability to work with hand tools, I can’t imagine wanting a disk grinder that close to my wabbly bits.

No need to worry about this happening to me. Mrs Edge prefers me to be completely protected inside a steel cage, anyhow.

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Men Get Sad After Sex. Now We Have a Concrete Answer Why

Here’s an interesting article from Medium’s Mel Magazine:

Men Get Sad After Sex. Now We Have a Concrete Answer Why

When I first saw the topic, I thought it would be about the reported tendency for men to feel depressed, lackluster, or unmotivated after an orgasm; after all, that’s one of the enforced chastity tropes: men can take days or weeks to build back up to being proper partners after an orgasm – so the stories go.

But this article actually touched on something else that I hadn’t known about. Some men actually experience distinct feelings of shame and dysphoria after sex.

There were other theories out there about why men might be inclined to get the post-sex blues. Largely, it was presumed that men, hardwired to fuck strong, must feel some essence of their maleness has been lost once they’re spent, and that this realization creates a natural sadness.

The “essence of maleness” sounds too much like woo to me; fortunately, the researchers dug a little deeper.

But Schweitzer’s research, which came out this week, is enlightening: Some 41 percent of men have experienced PCD in their lifetime, almost as many as women. And the reasons are typically one or more of the following: psychological distress, past sexual trauma or sexual dysfunction.

There’s no evolutionary-psychology bullshit here: Men who are stressed out, have been abused or have trouble getting it up can very well feel bummed out after fucking. That’s not shocking. But hey, we can never get enough reminders that men are human, too.

Something like 46% of women experience PCD, something which has been known for a while. It’s interesting that nobody thought about  it in terms of how it applied to men; after all, men are supposed to be looking for sex – it’s hardwired into us, isn’t it?

The other interesting point is that one of the causes seems to be sexual trauma of some sort.

But the men who do so often had a history of sexual or emotional abuse in childhood, depression or anxiety, and more often, hypoactive sexual desire disorder — or a general lack of sexual desire. (It used to be called “being frigid,” and is mostly something you hear about related to women, who make up 33 percent of the reports of the disorder, compared with only 20 percent of men.) They were also more likely to experience premature or delayed ejaculation.

And it makes sense that if you’re not having much fun with sex, then you’re going to continue to experience dysphoria.

It’s not specifically a chastity related article, so those of you who came here looking for that kind of thing can skip it. I just happened to be reading at lunch and found it interesting.

I guess one way to avoid poist-coital dysphoria is to not have an orgasm, right?

Mrs Edge said that it’s going to be a fantasy for me, since she doesn’t anticipate allowing me to have any type of orgasm.

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A funny thing happened on the way to the forum

Back in 2011, a few hardy bloggers and chastity fans, after seeing a new chastity/OD oriented web forum overrun with spammers and trolls, set up their own too-obviously named Chastity Forum with the intention of providing a place for the (mainly) vanilla-inclined people to discuss chastity, devices, techniques, etc., without the distraction of a lot of other BDSM and related interests. Initiated by Thumper, the forum remained small, but friendly.

A couple of years ago, the forum was hit with some malware that caused search redirects, and while we were able to remove the malware, a few background issues, including a lack of time kept us from getting under the hood and upgrading the works from the paleolithic coding.

Enter Schnoff. Realizing that it was still a great resource, Schnoff managed to move the forum to a new server, upgrade the ancient PHPbb software, and add a few features – all within a week or so. We’ve been testing things out, and it doesn’t appear that we’ve lost anything in the transition.

So, for those of you who stopped visiting, please feel free to check it out again, if only to give some props to Schoff for his hard work.

Also, for those of you so inclined, you might want to check out the Discord channel created by Chastity Forum member TeaseMe. It’s small, but growing, and if you have spent any time on the forums, you’ll probably run into some familiar names.

Mrs Edge said something very similar to this the other day. It was, umm… kind of hot.

Actually, what she said was “I don’t really care how long you’ve been caged. I never even think about it anymore.”

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Road Warrior

I know the topic comes up a lot, especially on chastity related forums, so here’s something of interest for those of you who enjoy bicycling.

Cyclists go through saddles like crazy, trying to find one that has a decent fit and doesn’t leave your ass or man bits going numb after a few hours. I happened to stumble across the Selle SMP TRK saddle at a local bike shop, and for the last couple of years have really appreciated the thought that had gone into the design. It looks a little funny because it’s a split saddle (that is, it’s open in the center) and the nose dips down like an eagle beak. The combination of those two features made me wonder if this saddle would allow cycling with a device.

I finally got a chance to try it out last week. The answer is, yes – with some qualifications.

Note that I am a road cyclist, but I tend to ride on the hoods or up on the bars, and not hunched over in the drops (I’m not 24 anymore, if you get my drift). I wore normal Lycra shorts with nothing underneath (for those of you who didn’t know, this is normal. Think about it the next time you’re standing next to a Middle Aged Man in Lycra.), and applied a liberal amount of Gold Bond lotion around the ring. After I clipped in, I sat up, and found I had to move/twist the cage slightly more to the side than I would in snug jeans, but once I got going along it was fine. In fact, after the first few miles, I forgot I had it on, and kept going at a nice pace. Since it was my first ride of the season, I was just warming up, and kept to the flatter roads (well, what passes for flat in central Connecticut).

At some point I stopped for a drink, and switched the cage to the other side of my seam. I had a couple of minor pulls that I attributed to hairs getting caught. About 10 or 12 miles out I did notice that things were a little out of place (it gets hot in those shorts), but a quick stop to readjust set everything right again. I finished the 15 mile ride with no chafing, redness, pinching, or any other problem.

Again, this was a shorter ride for me, with no steep climbs. I maybe averaged 13-14 mph, and didn’t do anything unusual. The lotion held up pretty well, and I should mention that I’m in the A272, which has a flat profile on the cuff ring, so I’m not sure what difference a round ring would make, but I suspect less friction.

I’m not sure if I would try a 50 mile ride, although I’ll try a longer ride soon just to see how things hold up. However, for those of you who typically ride a more upright bike along the bike trails, then the TRK might be the saddle that works for you. Hell, even if you’re *not* thinking about riding in a device, it’s still a very good, well made, and comfortable saddle.

From the sound of things, her partner should probably be thinking about upgrading his bike saddle, as well.

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No, not really


For those of you who don’t watch those cable channels, this is not a domme. No, this is a character from a TV show who wears a lot of revealing leather, and has a lot of control over people. Her leather outfit with all the studs would fool you into thinking that she’s some kind of professional mistress, though, wouldn’t it? It’s amazing how we recognize what one is supposed to look like.

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Not good for walking


Every once in a while – or on Tumblr, every fifteen or twenty minutes – you run into a shot that defies description.

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Year of the Cat

Next to the “Xena” chain bra, Michelle Pfeiffer’s “Catwoman” costume did a lot for the kink community when that movie came out.

Note that I’m not saying that everything it did was good.

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Chilly day in the hood

Man, you can just tell that the air conditioning is set to Max in this room, can’t you?

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