The Month in Chastity

No, not me. As it happens, we haven’t done the chastity thing in a while, now that Mrs. Edge has discovered ruined orgasms. For that matter, I think I’ve only had two or three full-on orgasms since December; most of our intimate relations are now following the pattern of me pleasuring her, and then her ruining mine by squeezing down hard at the last second — causing me a bit of anguish, and usually wondering why I continue to look forward to them, because I regret my decision each time it happens.

Anyway, I’m sure that nobody reading is interested in that kind of thing. You’re here for the chastity, aren’t you? As it happens, there have been some interesting things happening in the last couple of weeks.

First on the list is Dishevelled Domina’s interview with chastity maven Sarah “I am not a Domme” Jameson. Sarah, of course, is the author of some kind of male chastity blog, and appears to have written a book or something that a few people have found somewhat useful. Sarah is one of the few people who admit (claim?) to use chastity and orgasm denial in a vanilla (i.e., non-BDSM) context.

Psychology Today, the magazine that almost single-handedly created pop-psych has an interesting blog (if you like that sort of thing) and one of the writers (Gary WIlson, author of Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow) just published an article claiming that frequent ejaculations seem to create a “hangover” condition for men. This seems to correspond to what many chastity aficionados claim: that after sex, they simply aren’t interested in being a loving, caring partner for a while.

Coincidentally. Psychology Today also had a small post on the actual history of chastity belts; or more specifically, the myth behind them. Unfortunately, the article was short, and there was little mention about them or their current usage.

And over on Domme Chronicles, Ferns has a revelation as to why chastity play is so hot for some people.

He was kept on a sexual edge for as long as I wanted, our play was intensified, he became sensitised in a way he had never been before, his entire way of walking around in the world changed, his view of himself changed, his relationship with his sexuality was emphasised, and I was the owner of all of it.

It was just incredibly hot hot hot, intensely intimate, and amazingly close-making.

Oh, and before I forget, I just wanted to mention that the Chastity Forums have been growing steadily, and by popular request, we now have a Keyholder Forum. At the moment, it’s a private place for newbie KHs (mainly women, although we have a few men) to discuss issues, concerns, etc. Overall, CF is still a mainly-vanilla forum, though, and the focus is still on support and advice for those interested in chastity play in a relationship. For those of you who are looking for a hangout that is more about the relationship and less about the BDSM aspects, it’s a small, but active community.

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I’m off to see The Avengers tonight, so here’s a picture with the appropriate theme.

Safe (Senior) Sex

Social conventions change slowly… but they do change. This means that we need to keep abreast of the latest trends in order to provide support when and where it’s needed.

What am I going on about? Old people are having sex. No, seriously.

More specifically, unmarried old people are having sex without the awareness of the precautions that younger people now take for granted. The rate of senior citizens with Sexually Transmitted Diseases has skyrockted over the last ten years, with no appearance of slowing down for the foreseeable future.

Fortunately, some people had the foresight to get on this. Safer Sex for Seniors is a new website offering up tips, advice, and information for seniors interested in pursuing an active sex life. It’s an example of a good, informational website that doesn’t presuppose that all of it’s users will be cis-gendered straight married couples; the sidebar informational links to PDFs on topics ranging from Bisexuality, to Transgender issues, to condom use, to one’s sexual rights while in institutional care, to using adult toys.

Safer Sex for Seniors produced a short video that highlights the issues of “safe sex” STD prevention, while keeping a light-hearted tone that’s not patronizing. Apparently, we’ve learned something since the big sexual education programs of the 1980s.

I know that some of you are looking at these pictures of what are, frankly, older and out-of-shape people posing in what might be some of your own favorite positions, and are wondering if you’ll ever feel comfortable around your parents or grandparents again. You need to keep in mind that there is no age at which one suddenly loses sexual desire. You also need to learn that the images that you’re looking at in this post, and on the SS4S’s cute poster are pretty much what all of us have to look forward to when we’re past retirement age.

Personally, I find that as I get older, I’m still attracted to women my own age, and occasionally find myself wondering what lies ahead, sexually speaking, when I’m in my 70s or 80s.

The only drawback about the SS4S website (and their Twitter account) is that I’m having a hard time imagining enough seniors savvy enough with the internet to access their website. That is, are the seniors who are not familiar with the internet the same ones that could benefit the most from this information? And does anyone have any ideas on how to promote this message to those who really need it?

The Internet Was Made for Porn

While the opinion has surfaced any number of times, finally there’s some confirmation.

The internet was made for porn.

Think that’s only a song?

From The Elite Daily

Study: Top Porn Site Gets 4 Billion Hits A Month

‘The internet is for porn,’ is the title of a song on hit musical Avenue Q. And it turns out the lyricists had touched on a home truth, because researchers have discovered that a staggering 30 per cent of all internet traffic is pornography.

The biggest porn site on the web – Xvideos – receives 4.4billion page views and 350million unique visits per month, according to a report on the ExtremeTech website.

The only sites that surpass this in size are the likes of Google and Facebook.

The report uncovered the viewing figures for Xvideos from Google’s DoubleClick Ad Planner, which uses cookies to gather information about users.

It then used these figures – and actual data from the third biggest porn site, YouPorn – to extrapolate how much data is being transferred out of the site’s servers.

And it’s a huge amount.

It based the first calculation on the average length of time spent on Xvideos, which is 15minutes, and assumed a low resolution video was being streamed.

From this it estimated that around 29 petabytes of pornography is being transferred a month, or 50 gigabytes per second.

However, it upped this estimate to 35 to 40PB per month after learning that YouPorn hosts over 100TB of porn, gets 100million page views and transfers 950 terabytes per day.

That’s the equivalent of 10 dual-layer DVDs per second.

At peak times, it speculates that Xvideos is streaming 1,000 gigabytes per second (or one terabyte), which, the report points out, is one fifteenth of the total amount of connectivity between London and New York.

So, roughly a third of internet traffic is porn, and that probably doesn’t include the various adult-oriented WordPress, Blogger, and Tumblr traffic, nor the handful of specialized web forums, etc.

I mention this because this report comes just after the hint that several of the Republican frontrunner candidates have come out as being against internet pornography. This strikes me as interesting because candidates usually claim to be acting on what their supporters want, but in this case, the statistics would indicate that a pretty significant number of their supporters are consumers. There’s a certain irony, too, in that last year there were news reports about the largest demographic for porn consumption was in the southern and south-western US, the same areas that traditionally seem to be the most conservative.

More interestingly, those kinds of numbers point out just how large the porn business must be; and from there, it’s not a stretch to imagine that such an industry must contribute to some pretty decent tax revenues, and add to the coffers of the local economies.

While I’m not a big porn consumer, myself, I support the right of other people to view what they want. So, yeah. Porn. It’s good for you, and good for the economy.

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And now here’s something to get your mind off of politicians.

Before and after

Before and after

Several male chastity fetishists were talking after the local munch about being locked up.

“Chastity makes you more attentive,” said another, “because when I have an orgasm I become a real dick.”

“Well, I think that chastity makes you more submissive,” said one man, “because when my wife locks me up, I crave more attention from her.”

“That’s not all,” replied a third, “chastity makes you a cuckold, because my wife needs to take other men to satisfy her.”

“Not only that, chastity will make you into a sissy,” claimed another, “because after my wife started taking other men, she found me to be less masculine.”

They then turned to the oldest among them, and asked what he thought.

“Before chastity,” answered the man, “we had a relationship. When we started locking me up, it was intimate and exciting all at the same time. But after we adopted chastity, we went back to having a relationship.”

A gathering among kinksters

A gathering among kinksters

A well-known Dom called a special munch of all the wise kinkyfolk in the city. After they all settled down, he addressed the crowd.

“I called you all together to give you the definition of what it really means to be truly dominant and truly submissive.”

After a few seconds, the crowd burst into laughter. The Dom smiled and ordered the first round of drinks, and after that, everyone sat around, telling jokes and gossiping until the restaurant staff had to throw them out.

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Inside, Outside

Inside, Outside

A male submissive was talking to a friend who was known to be the slave of a popular Domina. “Hey, I thought your Mistress believed in complete orgasm control,” he said.

“Yes, she does,” answered the slave.

“But I can see that you’re not not wearing your CB9000,” said the friend. “Why aren’t you in your chastity device?”

“Because I do not see myself as out of the device,” answered the slave.

“Man, you’re tripping balls, you know that?” replied his friend.

Obedience

Obedience

A Gorean Master heard about the unconventional ways of some of the new kinkyfolk, and decided to visit the local Kink For All unconference. As he listened to a woman giving a presentation on dominance, he called up to the stage, “So, you think you’re a dominant, do you? I doubt that a woman can be a True Dominant. A True Dominant can get anybody to obey her. Can you?”

She looked into the audience, and said, “Why don’t you come up to the stage with me?”

So he went up to the stage.

“Here, stand over on my left so we can talk.”

He moved to her left.

“No, I think you were better off on my right, after all. Would you please trade places?”

He smirked and moved back to her right.

“There,” she explained, “You’re obeying me, aren’t you? Now, go have a seat so I can finish my presentation.”

“Fuck you, you crazy bitch!” yelled the Gorean Master, and stormed off, unenlightened.

The Submissive’s Wish

The Submissive’s Wish

Once, a submissive woman was at a play party, kneeling in front of her Master with his cock in her mouth, as was his usual desire. She grew restless at not being able to look around at the activity, and began to imagine all of the exciting things happening. “This is stupid,” she thought to herself. “I’ll bet the male subs don’t have to sit around sucking cock all night. I wish I were a male submissive.”

The BDSM spirits heard her silent plea, and suddenly, she found herself at the party as a male submissive.

She walked around for a little while, enjoying the sights and sounds of the play party. But eventually she discovered that submissive women did not talk to submissive men, that most of the domme women considered them to be a nuisance, and that the dom men were very dismissive. “Looks like being a submissive male isn’t what I thought,” she said to herself. “Now, domme women have it made. The men fawn all over them, and all they need to do is to sit in the chairs and look pretty. I wish I were a domme woman. “

And once again, the BDSM spirits heard her wish and changed her into a female dominant.

She sat on a chair in the middle of the biggest play space, and enjoyed the attention of the submissive men offering to get her this, or to fetch  her that. But soon, she grew discouraged. “Most of these submissive men are middle-aged and a bit overweight, not like the sub men in the movies,” she thought to herself. “And they keep trying to get me to touch them, and they keep pressing themselves up against me, and offering to lick my boots. Ugh, and these freaking boots are killing me, and this leather corset is too damn tight, and the dom men keep telling me that I only think I’m a domme because I haven’t been topped by the right guy. I guess if one really wants to have power in the scene, you need to be a dom man.”

Moments later, she was changed into a male dominant.

“Yeah, now we’re cooking with gas,” she said, as she looked around the room. But she discovered that she couldn’t concentrate on the party; instead, her head was filled with thoughts like “I wonder if I’ve got enough Viagra at home for the rest of the week?” and “Both my slaves are having their period, and they’re driving me crazy with their constant bickering,” and “Oh, there’s a new girl. I should chat her up, but how am I going to talk my slaves into taking another sister into the house?” As all these thoughts swirled in her mind, she noticed a pleasant feeling in her crotch. She looked down and saw a female submissive kneeling between her legs, and sucking on her cock.

She thought to herself, “Man, I guess being a male dominant isn’t all it’s cracked up to be either. I wonder what the answer to all of this is?”

And suddenly she was transformed back into the sub, kneeling on the floor, with her Master’s cock in her mouth.

“Oh, fuck this noise!” she said, spitting it out. Quickly she arose, removed her collar and flung it at her surprised Master’s head, and marched out of the play party. She went back to school, became a massage therapist, and a few years later opened her own spa.

It Will Pass

It Will Pass

A Domme was having coffee with her friend, and complained “I don’t know what’s wrong lately. I’m feeling so insecure and have not been in the mood for play, my toys are collecting dust, and we barely even have vanilla sex. Maybe I’m just not as dominant as I thought.

Her friend was nonchalant. “Don’t worry, it will pass,” she said.

A few weeks later, they were having again coffee, and the Domme exclaimed “I’ve totally got my groove back. I’m feeling completely on top, and I even came when I was pegging my boi last night. I’m a Domme, alright!”

Her friend nodded. “Don’t worry, it will pass,” she said.